-------------she can laugh at the days to come.------------
22, female, figuring it out as it comes. MBA candidate, worker, writer, somewhat obtuse artist of sorts.
Just because you say gender shouldn’t have anything to do with systemic inequalities between men and women doesn’t mean that it DOESN’T have anything to do with it. But because you are a man saying that, I forgive you. You obviously haven’t taken a class on our current society. Please, before you open your mouth about women not raising their own children again, just stop and check yourself.
There used to be this terrible feeling of indignation and pride and shame all mixed into one when my old guy friends and their guy friends would make fun of me when I had very serious conversations (i.e. radiation types and how they affect our physique etc or even something as simple as the right of a woman to have maternity leave) and they would make me feel like they weren’t taking me seriously.
I realize now that that is their own defense mechanism. It is wholly odd for them to think of women as intellectual equals. So they trivialize me. They make me insignificant by making comments on facebook dismissing my valid points. They chuckle to one another and dismiss me while they pat each other on the back and go on their ignorant, rude, and out-dated social behaviors.
Now, I am amused. I will not make them trivial to me, but I am looking at their treatment of me and others like me as it should be: a dying phenomenon. It is slowly going away. It won’t happen in my lifetime, but there will be a day when women are not dismissed and made trivial in even social conversations.
P.S. I went on a date with a dude from the airforce, and we had been texting a lot before in the months leading up to the date (he had found me through a friend’s list of friends on facebook) and what ensued was the single most amusing date of my life.
He told me that he didn’t feel comfortable talking to me about his “science-y” work because he only talks to his guy friends about that, and that he was uncomfortable with me because he only wanted to go on a date with me to have sex with me and that’s what he viewed women as, sex dates.
Needless to say, he didn’t get a second date and didn’t make it to dessert.